Old age homes, a welcoming idea..

One of our friends recently told me the other day that he is looking for old age homes as he doesn’t think his kid is going to be around to take care of him and his wife in their old age.( his kid is only 6 years old!!:)) He said when he and his wife becomes unable to support each other he wants to make sure that there is a good old age home that they could spend the rest of their life. He even thinks of slowly making a set up like that for himself and for others too!!


Jokes apart, I feel as long as we don’t have any immediate plans of going back to good old joint families the idea of a good old age home is more than welcome. Can’t blame the children anymore as they might be busy building up their own lives. In that race if they end up in a far away country away from their parents who can blame them? They may not be able to take the parents along with them to wherever they are. We had been away for a long time and every year when we came back home it was hard to leave the parents behind and go. Always getting worried thinking how they are doing..Sometimes parents do come and stay for some time, but they really don’t want to stay in a foreign land, away from home for too long.

So I feel it would be a pleasant change for the people who are leading lonely retired life and who has nobody to take care of them to come together and live in a safe and secure environment.

I have heard there is such a place in Coimbatore, some villas I guess where retired people live. They have shops and hospitals etc all in the same compound .I would definitely like such a place rather than live alone in my old age and not being able to get any help if I need. I feel it could be fun!! I know a lot of older ladies living alone after the death of their husbands. I have heard of such a lady being followed and attacked for her gold right inside her garage. Those thieves might have followed her and studied her closely enough to do such a thing. Or who else would dare coming inside gate and knock on the car’s doors? They might have known that there is nobody in that house to help her. Similarly a close relative of ours in his late 70s is living with his younger brother who is suffering from Parkinson disease along with his brother’s mother in-law and his brother’s daughter’s mother in-law in the same house. They all have separate rooms and TV’s etc but the whole atmosphere is depressing. They are all forced to live together even though given a chance they would more than happily live in Separate Islands. But the circumstance is forcing them to live like this. If they have a choice I know at least two of them would want to live separately, they would have stayed in their own houses happily if they could feel secure and get help at their finger tips. Personally speaking even now I hate staying in this home alone, which I never had to until now and I dread thinking about the time when I have to someday.

How hard people in such environment live, I can only imagine. If a good old age home is out there these people would get a chance to live the rest of their lives in a secure area where they could also get medical help and other help and other people to talk to. In that case I would welcome the idea of an old age home whole heartedly.

But right now we have some old age homes here that I heard are worse than jail. Some of them don’t even let the husband and wife live together and is very strict with the inmates. This should never happen; this must be an environment that is friendly, relaxing and with full of freedom where people can live happily ever after…..